By Barbara Thompson
Second Counselor in the Relief Society General Presidency
I once had a roommate who was a lovely person, but almost everything I did seemed to annoy her. I thought, "How could I possibly annoy her? I am so easy to live with. Right?"
Because she wasn't very fond of me, I used that as an excuse not to love her either. Fortunately, I recalled the advice a bishop had given during a sacrament meeting while I was in college. I vividly remember his counsel: "If you don't love someone very much, you probably haven't served that person enough. If you serve a person, you will love that person."
After thinking about the advice of my bishop, I decided that I needed to serve this roommate and put the bishop's counsel to the test. I began looking for little ways to help my roommate, show kindness to her, and be more responsive to what she needed and wanted.
Then almost immediately a miracle happened! I learned that I really did love her. She was a wonderful, talented person. It was a blessing for me to share an apartment with her. I was amazed how my view of her changed in such a short time.